My wife had an affair but i still love her

An update after 3 years of recovering from an affair. My wife of two years had become an instant stranger. Sex is the ultimate most intimate thing you can do and to have your body rubbing all over someone else and all that sex entails thats not love. I am struggling with whether or not i should connect with the other affair partner or even contact his spouse. Even worse, it could increase the likelihood of her having yet another affair. How to stay married after your wife has had an affair our. Coping if spouse had intense feelings for affair partner. Someone in my family had an affair and his wife threatened to sue the affair partner for alienation of affection, which is done quite a bit in the state where they live. His sacrificial love had such a powerful impact on those around him that they became. You would have thought i was a great boyfriend to your face, but i cheated, i had online affairs, i had inperson affairs. Im willing to forgive and move forward but shes not sure shes willing to stop seeing him. Her early denial, lying, blaming, betrayal of my only request and turning the healing process into a fight each time broke me.

My ex held up her end of the deal and divorced me, but he seems to have gotten cold feet. So whenever my cheating clients start to feel like a victim i gently. How can i convince my wife i still love her and will never cheat on. She admitted to knowing where the guy lives, even took me to his house, he is married scum bag with 2 children. The unfaithful spouse believes theyve fallen in love, and feels powerless over these. I wish i had found this website earlier and got the book divorce busters earlier too.

I recently discovered that my wife had a 4week affair. Im so torn because i love her and cant believe she did this to me, but at the same time the thoughts of her being with another man haunts me all day. But no matter if your wife only had a onenight thing or a 7year affair with her co worker, the moment of discovery is the most shocking, painful. When a woman cheats, its almost always a result of something else. Confused to reconcile or divorce i found out my wife is having an affair for about 4months. I caught my wife cheating six weeks ago and i still love her but i m struggling to move forward as i still have images in my head of her and her lover. She was repentant as your wife seems to be and she did her best to. Im not sure why the lies continue when i am willing to forgive.

He had ended his affair with my former friend before i ever had a clue. Ended my affair but love her and miss her relationship talk. I am still angry at my wife for cheating on me truth about. Can a wife really love her husband if shes having an affair. When it was happening i had this feeling and i kept asking her if she was cheating or if there was another person and she kept denying it until i logged on her ipad and found some conversations between the two. My wife cheated on me for nearly a year before i caught them. Essentially, i dont believe that at this moment in time, you are in the right headspace to be deciding what you want. Rightly so, we assume that it would be an easy decision, especially when the affair is no longer a secret.

My wifes affair shattered our marriage but god redeemed what was lost and restored our marriage. You should not be having an affair with a married woman but if you love her and she really loves you more than your husband you should ask her to divorce him. My wife cheated on me but i still love her funny marriage. Spouses cannot wrap their head around the idea of why cheaters cannot leave their affair partners. But i told stephanie i wouldnt see or contact kate again the woman i was having an affair with and ive kept to my word.

How to love someone again after infidelity psychology today. My wife had an so called emotional affair, she said it was. Aug 16, 2011 my wife had an so called emotional affair, she said it was emotional and no sex involved when we had sex she called out the guys name once. How can i convince my heartbroken wife i still love her and will never cheat on her again. We had a broken home but with the lords help and a lot of work, its fully restoredstronger than before. I still love her but will never trust her in multiple ways. Tell her how her affair made you feel, and how it affected your confidence, your trust in her, and your feelings about the marriage. I suspected for a couple months prior that something was going on and continually asker her if she was having an affair and she denied it.

My wife had an so called emotional affair, she said it was emotional and no sex involved. Can a husband be in love with his wife while having an affair. The man she was with is 22 years older than her, has a wife and family, and is a coworker of hers and still remains so even after. Its been all most 20 years that i accidentally discovered my wife s affair. Im starting to think my wife is having another affair but. Thats because a person whos had a longterm affair behind his or her spouses back is.

I work in the field of infidelity, so ive heard this story from a variety of husbands. Dana answers a question from ed about his wife s affair. When i start to dig deeper into the details, there. My wife lied about having an affair truth about deception. How to stay married after your wife has had an affair. Im doing everything i can to show him that i love him and that im repentant. Wife had an affair but i still love her beyondblue. Well i found out who the guy was and we met and he showed me a variety of texts and nude pictures my wife had sent him. My wife has a rep for being very conservative, a real miss goody 2 shoes.

How to know if my wife really loves me after i forgave her for. To this day, i cant really explain why i sanctioned zachs affair with lena. Unfortunately, i recently found out that she had developed a strong relationship with someone at the gym. If your wife is cheating on you with another man, but has not taken him as her lover, there is still a lot to be concerned about. Aug 01, 2012 can you still love your spouse and cheat. Hi all, my world came crashing down one month ago when my wife sent me an email stating that she had an affair and that it was with a coworker. My spouse is still bringing up my affair ten years later. Im upset that my wife had an affair 40 years ago recently, while going through some old boxes in the basement, i ran across her diary and discovered that she had an affair while we. This all call to air when her lover confronted me, telling me he loved her. Even less likely to appear in the magic kingdom is a couple suffering from a spouses deep.

If a man cheats on his wife or a woman cheats on her husband there is no way to still love your spouse. Crushed and powerless are the words he uses to describe his feelings after discovering his wife of 11 years had betrayed him. My wife cheated on me but i still love her what should i do. Jan 22, 2016 additionally, we have had beautiful kids together. My wife has had neumerous affairs during our years of marriage. You ask if the affair is over, is she lying to me again. Or the trigger can be linked to a previous romance your wife had before you were married. She still messages the other man and sometimes goes for walks with him but.

She used the threat of the suit to get better leverage in their divorce settlement. The things my wife and her lover did psychology today. And another time when she asked how can i still love her, and i said i loved the way she was before the affair. I had an affair and went back to my wife but now i miss the. I have tried to resolve this with her, but the reason it can never be resolved is. Is it possible to truly love your wife yet still cheat on her. Previous post an update after 3 years of recovering from an affair. About a month ago, i discovered my wife of one year had had a fling with a coworker that she initiated. How can i convince my wife i still love her and will never. Julie called me yesterday and explained that she recently learned that her husband, todd, was having an affair at work with a coworker. Approximately 10 years ago, my wife had an affair with our daughters soccer coach.

Nov 10, 2012 she reentered the work force last year and had an affair with a married coworker. Aug 22, 2019 i ve just discovered my wife is having a sexual relationship with her ex boss, this has torn my world apart completely. Husband still struggling after wifes affair focus on. My wifes secret affair with her boss the couple connection.

If, after evaluating the marriage, a cheaters decision is still not clear. You can truly and deeply love someone and still have sex with someone else. Having said that, i knew from the very start that i could not leave my wife, and i told my girlfriend so from the beginning. I had a three month affair and when my affair had ended i made the same mistakes it seems that all of you are suffering. But what are the chances of being happy again, after an affair. He then admitted that one night around 1 am she drove to his house bit got spooked when she recognized a friends car.

My job requires me to go to the homes of others whether male or female. Her affair was a symptom of a terminally ill marriage. I confronted her with the information and she acknowledged the affair. Jan 24, 2007 my wife is lying to me about her affair. I suspected for a couple months prior that something was going on and continually asker her if she was having an affair and she denied it until the guilt got. Firstly he wouldnt of had an affair if he was happy in his marriage and he didnt plan an affair.

I dont know weather to believe her and is being honest about it or is it something she will do again. How to get over my wifes affair husband help haven. My wife has cheated and lied to me repeatedly throughout. All the information i can find tells one how to survive an affair. I caught my wife cheating six weeks ago and i still love her but im struggling to move forward as i still have images in my head of her and her. The affair that i had when we were first married was all my fault. Why does my wifes infidelity twenty years ago still hurt. My wife still loves me and i really do want to change, but i also want kids and we are not getting any younger. While tapping my phone calls, i was always a jealous person but was certain that she would never be unfaithful, i discovered a call. I developed a love for her, that while based in fantasy, fun, and good times, was still very intense. I find myself wondering how i will ever love my unfaithful wife is there any hope for my marriage, or is my relationship with my wife doomed to ruin. My wife, when we were dating, found multiple messages from multiple women.

I sometimes hear from people who feel as if they will never be truly free from an affair that is in the past. I tried to imagine how i would have felt if it was stephanie whod had the affair instead of me, and. I cant stop thinking about my wifes affair the guardian. Ive asked god to forgive me, and i believe he has, but i want to feel that my spouse forgives me too. What else of course a hot topic in the news as of late which is that actress kristen stewart had an affair with her director rupert sanders. Ask her any questions you may have about the affair. I still think of the other person every now and then, but my relationship with myself and.

Is my wife having an emotional affair my marriage helper. We worked through it and, strange as it seems, it improved our relationship and our sex. But i still continue to truly love my wife and i would never want to leave her ever. Aug 08, 2011 why your husband thinking about the other woman is not a sign he really cares for her and not for you, but part of a natural grieving process a reader writes four months ago, i discovered that my husband of 19 years had been having an affair for the past year. Its been all most 20 years that i accidentally discovered my wifes affair. Jul 31, 2017 i work in the field of infidelity, so ive heard this story from a variety of husbands. My wife had an affair for 6 months, she fell in love with.

Im a ww and scared to death of losing my h n family. A couple weeks after my divorce, i contacted his wife and we had about a 6 hour conversation. She was with him at the park by our 3 young children who she didnt think would know what was going on, but they even show me where the park was. She reentered the work force last year and had an affair with a married coworker. Jul 07, 2014 i fell madly in love with my knight in shining armour he knew how to treat me right. I caught her sexting, then came the phone records, then she brought it underground so she does not look like the bad one to our friends,she would leave in the middle of the day while i was at work for a few hours telling the kids she was going to the store. Jul 31, 2017 i had an affair and went back to my wife but now i miss the other woman. My wife has cheated and lied to me repeatedly throughout our relationship. When a cheater is with his wife he may still love her but the thought of being with the other is always on his mind.

Julie confronted todd about the affair, he admitted that he had been cheating, but told her he wanted to stop and to save their marriage. Youve been caught in a longterm affair, and your spouse has given you an. I found out my husband has been having an affair last week. My sense is she fell in love and cant admit it even to her or she is a pathological liar. I had an affair with this much older man and left my husband so i can actually be in a relationship with this man and not hide our so called love from anybody. This and the fact someone else has had their hands on her makes me sick and i have been. I need to know how to get over my wifes affair the thought of her with another man is breaking my heart. I recently found out that my wife is having an affair. I find myself wondering how i will ever love my unfaithful wifeis there any hope for my marriage, or is my relationship with my wife doomed to ruin.

After our last child, my wife went through a lot of changes. I had an affair and went back to my wife but now i miss the other woman. But, if you were raised believing the counterfeit was real and the real was. My mother is convinced that it was because i was under a spell, some form of black magic that zach used to turn me into an obedient wife. What can i do to help him stop dwelling on the past. Im afraid that ive made some really bad mistakes since finding out, and may have damaged my marriage even more than it was when i first found out. My wife had an emotional and sexual affair for a year and is now. Ive not known her to lie about other things but i think my wife. So i was eager to hear what she had to say about whether and how couples can find happiness after an. But no matter if your wife only had a onenight thing or a 7year affair with her coworker, the moment of discovery is the most shocking, painful. I caught my wife cheating six weeks ago and i still love her but im struggling to move forward as i still have images in my head of her and her lover. It all came as a big surprise to me as i do not expect a mum like me to still have admirers. What if my husband or wife is having an affair with a co.

So i was eager to hear what she had to say about whether and how couples. Its been over a year since my affair ended and my wife still feels that there are still holes and gaps to be filled. Although william has told me he loves me but he doesnt convince me. Despite the anger and distress i felt when i found out that my wife had been unfaithful, i decided that i still loved her. My wife told our therapist she viewed herself so negatively from the affair she doesnt care about anything wrong ive ever done to hershe just didnt want to lose me. The embarrassment i felt after my wifes affair divorce. Love your spouse or partner and still had an affair. He was on the prowl for a lonely wife, or maybe he still had feelings for her after all these years. The overresponsible married woman who discovers her.

Of the nearly 7 billion people on the planet, she was adamant that she had found her. Having had a similar experience, i would like to say that to feel jealous and emotionally insecure is only human. My wife of 11 years is having an affair, she will not admit it and got pissed at me saying that i need to stop saying there is another man. I need to know how to get over my wifes affairthe thought of her with another man is breaking my heart. We got past it and have, over many years now, strengthened our marriage. When i injure my wife through carelessness or selfishness, the person. My wife told our therapist she viewed herself so negatively from the affair she doesnt care about anything wrong ive ever done to her she just didnt want to lose me. My wife had an emotional and sexual affair for a year and is now back with me. The fact that the wife was still trying to help her. Of the nearly 7 billion people on the planet, she was adamant that she had found her soul. If she would ever come clean and admit to it, then we could work toward a. Hi i dont know if you still read this or it gets replies but i am also in your shoes, but im married.

She became addicted to working out and really worked her way into great shape. I walked into our room and she had not closed out her last internet session. His sacrificial love had such a powerful impact on those around him that they. I love my wife still, i was afraid that it would destroy her if i walked out she damned near had a full mental breakdown after finding the email trail and was in absolute agony. Husband still has feelings for affair partner ask andrew g. I recognize now that it was not a deep, lasting, rooted love like i have for my wife i never stopped loving my wife, but it easily could have become that if the situation were different and we had been able to pursue it. My wife s affair shattered our marriage but god redeemed what was lost and restored our marriage. The true definition of love and its role in surviving an affair affair.

If you have some self respect left, and still love her, then dare her to cut contact. I have saw her with another man with my own eyes, and saw her vehicle at a motel when she was supposed to be working. Kristen was not married to robert pattinson, but an affair nevertheless. They planned to divorce their spouses and live happily ever after. Hey guys, just wanted to see if anyone has experienced infidelity during their marriage and decide to stay with their wife. The embarrassment i felt after my wifes affair divorce angels. We hardly ever make love and have not for over a year. First, ive never been married but i dont think that disqualifies me from answering. Feb 21, 2008 i was devastated when i discovered my wife had been seeing an old boyfriend and had sex with him. Although i turned him down but since then my confidence grew and i started. Emotional affair signs does your wife love another man. When the wife has the affair marriage missions international. I had an affair and went back to my wife but now i miss the other.